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Writer's Block: Back off! [May. 18th, 2010|10:50 pm]

Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and just walked away? Have you ever gone out of your way to help someone who was being bullied? How do you think it impacted you and the person being bullied?

When i was in 10th grade there was a girl who use to sit at the lunch table across from me and the kids at my table would pick on her non-stop. Many times she would ignore, eat her lunch and then leave but other times she would get up crying and run to the bathroom.

I never hung with a particular group of people but knew people in almost every group in high school and this particular group was the soccer jocks and their girlfriends. One day, i snapped they where throwing cheese pops in her hair, calling her "buggy" and "ugly" (mind you she was awkward looking then with red hair and freckles - but i also had red hair and freckles, maybe that is why i related) and she was beginning to well up with tears in her eyes.

At this point I stood up, moved over to her and told them to say those things to me and leave her alone. The response was pretty harsh as they started teasing and bullying me when I jumped on the table, kicked their food and drink on them and started calling them "buggy" and "ugly" since they now had food on them.

At this point i looked at the girl and said, it doesn't matter what any thinks or says, everything you are is inside and I think you are pretty awesome.

15 years later I was traveling to work and this amazingly beautiful girl came up to me and asked if my name was mine to which i replied, yes. She continued to tell me her name and the incident that happened above and if it weren't for me she would never have made it a point to join a dance group, become a ballerina and model. She thanked me for standing up for her and also letting her know that not everyone is filled with hate. She also told me that she was contemplating suicide and that she wasn't sure how much more of their "taunting" she could have taken after that day.

This really got to me and I have never seen or heard from her again, aside from some modeling shots i see from time to time and I am glad i stood up (whether two wrongs make an even wrong, wrong) I am glad i became the person who stopped the incident and those groups of people who were bullying were turned in to the principal who actually expelled them at that time (only 3 of the 7 but still).

This made me realize that my life should be that of an impact to anyone I meet or know, whether positive or negative, I want everyone who meets me to have an opinion and a reason for that opinion and if I can impact or change one person - I have done more then most have done in a lifetime!

[User Picture]From: carriec
2010-05-19 07:03 am (UTC)
Dawne, what an amazing story. I have reread your entry here 6 times, thoughtfully. I am so proud of you for doing this! You made a difference. Then and now. I'm so inspired by you.
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[User Picture]From: josiefiend
2010-05-19 07:27 pm (UTC)
Wow, this is an incredible story. And so are you for what you did for that girl!
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[User Picture]From: kambriel
2010-05-20 03:17 am (UTC)
I can totally see you jumping up on that table!

I remember learning at a relatively early age the concept of how not hurting, but not helping, is really the same as hurting when it comes down to it, so I became determined to be more outspoken about my feelings, without so much fear of the repercussions. You just never know what could be the final straw for someone who's being bullied/humiliated, and can't underestimate the power of "random" acts of kindness.
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